There really is no single formula for attaining a balanced life. It’s a personal choice how one combines their career, spouse or significant other, children, friends, family and self into a well rounded satisfying life. The key is to create solutions as you approach these challenges of balancing the responsibilities and joys of multiple aspects in your life.
Some of the same skills and strategies you use at work such as planning, organizing, communicating, setting limits and delegating can be used effectively on the home-front for achieving a satisfying, fulfilling well-balanced life for your professional and personal lifestyle.
1. GET ORGANIZED
Set priorities, work smarter not harder, delegate (and then really let go!). Create lists and save them for later use. Keep a main a calendar located somewhere you can always access, and then post everyone’s activities.
2. BUILD A SUPPORT NETWORK
Ask for help and allow others to help you. Get your children involved; work together as a team. Recruit friends, family, neighbors, bosses, work colleagues, etc. and ask for their support. Create back-up and emergency plans; always have back up prospects.
3. LET GO OF GUILT
Guilt is a greatest waste of energy. It can cause you to become immobilized because you are dwelling on the past. Guilt can be very debilitating. By introducing logic it may help offset the guilt so you can stay focused.
4. ESTABLISH LIMITS AND BOUNDARIES
Boundaries are illusionary lines of protection that you draw around yourself. These are intended to protect you from other people’s actions. Decide for yourself what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior from other people.
Boundaries and limits define how you take charge of your life. They help you balance time and space and get in touch with your emotions. They express your accepted extent of responsibilities and power while showing others what you are willing to do or accept. Without limits it’s difficult to say “no” and there ends up being no defining of self or others. Without this one becomes lost and confused.
5. DETERMINE YOUR OWN STANDARDS
Get rid of the notion of being a perfectionist; it’s another illusion. Make compromises by figuring out where the best places to make compromises are you’re not hoodwinking yourself, spouse, children, or your boss. Live by your own standards rather than someone else’s. Standards are about YOU and refer to the behavior and actions to which you are willing to hold yourself. This is why they are called your standards.
6. CREATE TIME FOR YOURSELF
Being a good parent, partner and professional means being good to yourself first. Use your mind to make affirmations for yourself. Find ways to relax, relieve tension and minimize stress. Taking some time off for yourself will benefit you and your family tremendously!
7. BE FLEXIBLE
Forgive yourself when things don’t get done. Let go of the guilt. Understand that with children or even in everyday life things change at a moment’s notice. Be ready and willing to assume responsibility for any of the tasks that need to get done at any time. Never get too comfortable, because as soon as you seem to get things under control, they change! Change is the only constant. Also, realize that in order to achieve success many people have had to give up their original goals and substitute new ones with different challenges. Negotiate for what you need and want.
8. ENJOY QUALITY FAMILY TIME
Spend quality/focused time with your family. Give them your full attention when you’re with them. Develop rituals you can all look forward to like a movie, going to the book store, or just playing video/board games. Create relationships with your spouse and children that are essential to your success.
9. FIND RELIABLE CHILD CARE
Find someone you feel comfortable and confident in to leave your kids with. If you’re feeling uncertain about working or about leaving your child, don’t show it, your child (at any age) will pick right up on it. Feel proud when you’ve found someone who fits into your needs. Get involved with your child’s care providers; communicate frequently while observing interactions between caregiver and your child.
10. ACHIEVE AN INTEGRATED LIFE
Keep your perspective. Create the alpha in your life a mixture of work, family and friends. Remember, there is no single formula for balance. It is a personal decision how one combines spouse, children and career.